At the root of some of the most common reasons relationships fail is a breakdown or lack of communication. Poor communication makes it difficult to connect and understand what you’re both in need of. To feel heard, respected, and understood in any relationship seems like common sense, and yet so many relationships end because it’s missing. Tom and Lisa share their experiences and lessons from 20+ years together on what it takes to communicate more effectively. Whether you want a simple text during the day or see that your partner is completely out of control you can use these strategies to get a more productive conversation started with your partner. Get proactive so you can prevent the same arguments and misunderstandings from happening again and again. Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships. SHOW NOTES: Feeling Distant | How to communicate when you’re feeling distant and not connected [0:32] Know Your Patterns | Recognize patterns of disconnection and prevent future problems [5:59] Texting Rules | Agreeing on the expectation versus reality of texting during the day [10:40] Sanity Check | Trusting your partner when emotions cloud your reality and experience [21:59] Past Lessons | Why learning from past experiences is most important to be proactive [33:32] QUOTES: “Don't ever say the other person shouldn't be feeling something because you feel it and it's real.” Tom Bilyeu [7:45] “Don't dismiss the way the other person's feeling even if you don't feel like there's a reason for it.” Lisa Bilyeu [10:34] “You have to let the person really go deep into crazy land before you say you're being crazy.” Tom Bilyeu [28:06] “At the end of the day, the person that really has to get it together is the person that's going through that hard thing.” Tom Bilyeu [32:34] “one of the most powerful things couples can do is learn from the past.” Lisa Bilyeu [33:38]