ATTRIBUTIONS: HOST/JOURNALIST SELINE SHENOY (DIRECTOR OF RELATIONSHIP INTELLIGENCE AND CONTENT EDITOR AT SAY ALLO) Think you’re too picky when it comes to finding love? Maybe not. Watch my interview with @SAYALLO to distinguish between high value expectations and unrealistic demands: #picky #partnerselection I has the pleasure of shooing another video interview with my firends at the dating app, @SayAllo. Here's an excerpt written by Seline that highlights our discussion. She writes: "If you’ve recently noticed that you rarely swipe right on dating apps because no one is popping out at you, and you find yourself saying “no thanks,” you might be blaming one of two things: a lackluster dating pool or your unrealistic standards. You’re probably worn out from dodging players courting you with their monosyllabic greetings of “hey” or “wassup, hot stuff?” and the immature frat boys or sorority sisters who refuse to treat you like the gentleman or lady that you are. A bad swiping spell will make you question whether your picky ways are to blame for the lack of a love life. Firstly, know that you’re not alone in your predicament. In a world where we need to make five-second decisions about whether or not to pursue someone based on a couple of photos and a blurb alone, the approach to dating has drastically changed. Sorting through a sea of matches can bring out the nitpicky side in all of us. A 2013 study shows that online dating has made us more judgmental, and there’s a higher chance that we’ll dismiss perfectly good candidates. Because of the endless supply in options, a lot of singles have developed a “window shopping” mentality and become overly selective. They have become desensitized to the fact that the people they see in these apps are actually real people with many dimensions to their personality that are revealed with time. An intelligent dater knows how to avoid this pitfall by having criteria that make it easier to find someone. Yet, the question remains: Where do we draw the line in our selection process? According to love and relationship expert Susan Winter, we all have the right to be selective when choosing a mate but we do have to know when those standards are working against us. During the interview Susan provides her expert insight into the “am I too picky” quandary. In this interview, you’ll find out: The difference between being picky, having standards and settling. Whether being picky decreases or increases your chances of finding “the one.” Why knowing your worth and what you have to offer as a partner is essential. How to develop a balanced approach to picking your dates." By Seline Shenoy. Director of Relationship Intelligence and Content Editor at Say Allo. Ready to Say Allo to that special someone who meets your healthy standards? Enjoy built-in video features and other features such as compatibility reports by downloading the app at JustSayAllo.com for free. Available for iOS and Android. https://www.justsayallo.com/ https://www.instagram.com/justsayallo/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQt_jIUZsRA7vQtA0PDsycw As for me: Personal Coaching: http://www.susanwinter.net/consultation/ Or, call me on Magnifi: (on demand) by-the-minute coaching https://provider.magnifi.io/Susan Join my social media family! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanewinter/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/susanwinterrelationshipexpert/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/susan_e_winter LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-winter-033a433 Relationship Expert and Bestselling Author (Allowing Magnificence, Older Women/Younger Men, and Breakup Triage) Susan Winter, writes, speaks and coaches on evolutionary forms of loving partnership and higher thinking. Media credits include: THE OPRAH SHOW, THE TODAY SHOW, GOOD MORNING AMERICA, ABC/CBS/NBC EVENING NEWS, CNN, BBC, COSMO, HARPERS BAZAAR, PEOPLE, FORTUNE, BUSINESS INSIDER, NEW YORK MAGAZINE, THE LONDON TIMES, and THE NEW YORK TIMES. In radio, Susan is a frequent guest on NPR, ABC, BBC, PLAYBOY RADIO (Sirius), and CBS NEWS RADIO. HerPodcast, 'The Susan Winter Show', can be heard on iHeart Radio and iTunes. www.susanwinter.net