Just like how physical flexibility is the amount of stretch in our muscles, the ability they have to bend without breaking, psychological flexibility is the same quality in our minds. It helps us look at situations in new lights, be open to our emotions, let go of old versions of ourselves, and step into new ways of being. Dr. Rick and I both identify as “reformed rigid people,” and in this episode we explore how to become more psychologically flexible. We talk about rigidity as a form of psychological defense, the motivations for rigidity, the trap of assumptions and limiting beliefs, releasing attachment, and embracing new ways of thinking. Key Topics: 0:00 Introduction 1:25 Choice, and the tradeoff between flexibility and speed 2:50 Rigidity, agency, and flexibility in relationship 7:50 Behavioral vs. psychological choices 10:35 The dock and the river, and self-protection 16:05 Inflexibility as a means to an end 18:00 Tools to inquire into your rigidities 21:00 When others’ behavior isn’t about you 23:20 A different perspective on distress tolerance 24:10 Assumptions and limiting beliefs 27:25 Willingness to change, and comfort in feeling change 34:30 Releasing attachment to your ‘place’ 40:25 Understanding the function of your rigidity 42:05 Overidentification with goals and accomplishments 45:05 Stepping into the river 46:20 Recap Subscribe to Being Well on: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-well-with-dr-rick-hanson/id1120885936 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1XY0fpdYNSEwXLVQ Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (https://amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (https://apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth. You can follow me here: 🎤 https://apple.co/38ufGG0 🌍 https://www.forresthanson.com/ 📸 https://www.instagram.com/f.hanson